Getting your friends together after you’ve all had kids can be difficult, but it isn’t impossible. Don’t let conflicting schedules mean you lose touch with those closest to you. You need to nurture and continue friendships, even if all you want to do is spend time with your kids. Fact is, one day your children are going to move out, and if you don’t work on your friendships, you’ll find your life is quite lonely when your children have moved. Maintain friendships, make new friends, and remember that your social life exists beyond your family, and you’ll invest in your future and your happiness.
- Make it a Habit
When you want to increase how often you see your friends, you need to make it a habit. Go out and see your friends at least once a week. This could be over a brunch with all of your friends, or it could be a one-on-one meet up with your loved ones. Whatever you do, make it a habit for yourself to see your friends and even your external family at least once a week. If you manage to make a girl’s day every Sunday, then you’re well on your way to having the support and companionship that friendships give you for the rest of your life.
- Host Parties
If your friends have children, then invite them over! Their children can entertain your children and vice versa, meaning that everyone gets to have a lovely evening. Make food that’s a hit for everyone, which can be easily made. For example, purchase a VonShef baking stone for pizza, and have a pizza party with movies! The food will be delicious, everyone will love it, and you can collectively foster and nurture your friendships with each other. Share gossip, trade stories, and generally share in the experience of being a mom.
If you want to have a child-free party, then just organize so that your children can have a sleepover with their grandparents or cousins. So long as they have fun, you can relax and enjoy your party.
- Group Chats
Sometimes, it’s tiring to retell the same story (especially by text) to everyone you care about. That’s why group chats are so great because you can share all the information and stay in touch with ease. Share photos, videos, funny stories, and even your worries, and they’ll be there at all times of the day. You don’t have to talk on the phone or see each other face to face all day long in order to maintain a friendship, but staying in touch through your phone can help you stay up to date.
You can’t isolate yourself once you become a parent. Not only are friendships important for happiness, they are also crucial support pillars, especially if you need to talk to your spouse or children. Stay connected, and these relationships will become lifelong friends that become incredibly valuable to you, especially once your children move out and you and your partner are on your own again.