There are two schools of thought when it comes to working at home with your spouse. One of them is that they would love spending the extra time together and it will make their marriage strong. The other is that this will end up hurting the relationship as one or both parties are going to be nightmares to work with. The truth is that both of these are correct in a way as it can make a relationship stronger but it can also hurt it immensely if not managed correctly.
Many spouses have been working from home together since the COVID-19 pandemic hit last March 2020. This added stress is not for everyone but there are tactics that can help keep a couple from hurting their personal relationship.
Survival Tips For Working From Home With Your Spouse During COVID-19
Here are 5 tips for a couple to work together from home in a peaceful, productive, and loving manner.
Being able to go into your specified office can be important when needing to get something done or wanting to take time away from your spouse. There are going to be those spouses that are nothing but a distraction until they are left alone. Be honest about which type of spouse you have as this can be a productivity killer if you are not. The office is going to be a place you spend large amounts of time so take the time to make it a legitimate office. Creating a comfortable environment in a home office can be done on a budget and will improve productivity versus working in common areas of the home. You can even have a second desk in each office if at some points you need to work together in the same office in order to make a project go more smoothly.
“Business Free” Times Set
Working from home can engulf people as it becomes all they can think or talk about. When you are both working from the same location it can be tough to get out of business mode and into your personal relationship. For this reason, you need to start setting “business-free” times during the day where both of you are banned from talking business. This will allow you to have time to work on your relationship rather than the next project and allows you to have a husband/wife instead of just a person to talk business with. Try using meals as a start for these times as after dinner your workday should be done or winding down.
Hold Each Other Accountable In Constructive Ways
Holding each other accountable for not performing certain tasks or doing subpar work on a project has to be done with sensitivity. You are going to have to be nicer to your spouse than you would a coworker as you don’t have to see your coworker when you get home. Keep discussions about poor performance business-based as it can be easy to start hurling personal insults at each other. This not only will hurt business performance but it will not solve the original problem by starting a personal fight. The best-case scenario is that a client gives poor feedback on the project as this will be eye-opening to your spouse.
Realistic Productivity Goals
Nothing can tear a couple apart other than unrealistic expectations when it comes to productivity. Take the time to sit down and see how much work both of you can finish on a given day. A looming deadline can lead to fighting when you set a completion date for weeks earlier than the project will take at your current working pace.
Explore Individual Interests To Get Time To Yourselves
You are going to be spending more time than ever with your spouse so it is important to spend time apart. Finding something that you are interested in to do a few times a week can be the perfect break from your spouse. Playing pickup basketball or kayaking can be the perfect outlet for one spouse or the other. Both spouses are going to need time outside of the home as too much time there can leave you to go stir crazy or continually daydreaming. Healthy relationships outside of your marriage with friends are imperative to both spouse’s mental health.