Ditching the Working Mom Summer Guilt
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Ditching the Working Mom Summer Guilt

Summer break is here and while many of the moms I know are planning out their summer activities of places to go, things to see, days lounging by the pool and spending quality time with their children – for me, these next 11 weeks will look the same as all other weeks of the year.

I am still up by 5:30 am, my morning routine will not change and I will be rushing to get my kids out of bed, fed and off to summer camp so that I can rush back home and get back to work.

My kids LOVE summer camp and by the time they get home, they are done. A typical afternoon involves, television, slime, coloring books, video games, and tablets because after a full day of playing and activities they want to come home, cool off and unwind. I am fine with that.

However, summer camp only runs until 2 pm, so I will then proceed to have guilt for the rest of the time I work from 2-5 pm. Why do I have guilt? The guilt comes because while my kids do very well playing alone, I run upstairs for my third cup of tea and see my kids glued to video games or tablets. I won’t sit there and argue about the time they spend on video games because I need to work, but I will put pressure on myself to make it a great summer for them – even if our fun doesn’t start until after 5 pm.

I have guilt because I think to myself, “are my kids having an awesome summer?” I then think that perhaps I am not doing enough. But how can I? There are only so many hours in a day and I have to work. Deep down, I feel as if the summer days don’t feel any different for my kids, and I feel awful about that. So that’s when more guilt kicks into high-gear.

When the summer weeks look just like the school year, it’s easy for me to feel guilty…

But they really don’t, and most importantly, the kids don’t think so either.

I won’t lie, I am super jealous of my mom friends who either don’t work, or have summers off. Social media has only amplified the guilt problem.

Here’s what I see on Facebook all summer while I sit at my desk, plugging away at work on a sunny hot day…

“Spending all day long by the pool!”
“Day trip to the beach!”
“Loving this time with my kids!”
“Every day is Saturday at our house!”

I see shares from Pinterest on”30 Things To Keep Kids Busy” or “Fun Summer Crafts With Kids”. Let’s be real, none of these things can be done during a workday, but I catch myself pinning them anyway. I should probably just stick to pinning “Summer Fun Cocktails”.

Social media becomes my summer reminder of all the things I can’t do with my kids because I work. There goes more guilt, and sometimes even a little anxiety because I want to make sure my kids are not only having a good time but aren’t missing anything. And don’t get me started with the summer fun calendar I printed back in May and still sits on my desk with nothing on it. Mom fail or just not realistic for us?

Ditching the guilt…

While my Instagram photos will mainly consist of my children posing in some type of summer camp activity or our after dinner walks, I am blessed to be able to have them in a program that not only keeps them busy and mommy able to work, but they genuinely have a blast. And guess what? They love our walks and look forward to them each night. Something we don’t do in the cold months. Go away guilt, I am doing just fine!

Our summer silver lining…

Do you know what the weekends are in our home? Totally chill, laid back and the days we have our summer fun. We look forward to the weekend, perhaps even a little more than we do during the school year.

We have a lot to look forward to throughout the summer…

Nightly walks…

ice cream on the deck…

playing at the park…

later-ish bedtime…

family movie time with popcorn…

running through the grass before bedtime to catch fireflies…

sitting on the porch…

dinners al fresco…

weekend family outings (I will get that calendar filled at least on the weekends with all the places we want to go!)

and our favorite… or week-long family summer vacation!

So while there are times I want to quit my job or change my career in order to have summers off, being a working mom has given me the chance to enjoy the time we do have together and has given us a lot to look forward to. We may not have all week to go swimming or go exploring in town, but our weekends are gold and our summers complete. I guess it all balances out in the end.

#GoodbyeWorkingMomSummerGuilt

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