A few months after my husband and I got married I was chatting with someone whom I thought was a good friend. We were chatting about life and so forth and somehow got into the discussion about health insurance and how much money she has to pay out of pocket for a medicine. I replied by telling her that it sucks and, in all honesty, I felt sorry she had to dish out that amount of money. The conversation crept into what my, the military’s, insurance covered. I continued by saying that as a military spouse I am lucky that TriCare pays for the majority of our medications. The next words out of her mouth left me in total and complete shock. She went on to say that it wasn’t fair. I was caught completely off guard by her response and asked her what she meant by it wasn’t fair. She continued to rant on about how it’s not fair because she’s jobless (at the time she was) and that why does she have to pay for a certain medication and I don’t. I was appalled. I was shocked. I was speechless. I thought to myself, how can this person, a person that I considered a dear friend of mine, have the audacity to say “its not fair.”
After she was done with her little rant, I told her, “I’m sorry my husband is a Marine and makes very little money. I’m sorry that he goes to work each day for your safety. I’m sorry you are being selfish about your needs and not thinking of others.” There was silence on the other line. Needless to say the conversation didn’t end well and my respect for her flushed right down the toilet.
When I hear people, those who are not military, assume that everyone in the military (dependents or active duty) have it made, all I want to do is slap them upside the head and open their eyes to the reality of the military life. My husband once told me, “I didn’t join the Marine Corps for the money. I joined to be somebody. Heck! If I was in it for the money, then I definitely would not be in the military.”
We all know that the Marines, soldiers, sailors, airmen, etc. don’t make much money. They make enough. They have the added extras like housing and health insurance, because, lets face it, if you are defending a nation the least they can provided are those “luxuries”.
I am honored by what my husband does each day. There are not that many people in their twenties who know what they want in life. Heck! When I graduated college I still didn’t know what I wanted to be when “I grew-up”, but people like my husband do.
So why do people who are not in the military and hear about military’s “luxuries” get all worked up about them? I am not saying that everyone who is not in the military is like this, but why are some like this? Why are there are always people wanting things without consideration for the person next to them?