The Military Luxuries

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A few months after my husband and I got married I was chatting with someone whom I thought was a good friend. We were chatting about life and so forth and somehow got into the discussion about health insurance and how much money she has to pay out of pocket for a medicine. I replied by telling her that it sucks and, in all honesty, I felt sorry she had to dish out that amount of money. The conversation crept into what my, the military’s, insurance covered. I continued by saying that as a military spouse I am lucky that TriCare pays for the majority of our medications. The next words out of her mouth left me in total and complete shock. She went on to say that it wasn’t fair. I was caught completely off guard by her response and asked her what she meant by it wasn’t fair.  She continued to rant on about how it’s not fair because she’s jobless (at the time she was) and that why does she have to pay for a certain medication and I don’t. I was appalled. I was shocked. I was speechless. I thought to myself, how can this person, a person that I considered a dear friend of mine, have the audacity to say “its not fair.”

After she was done with her little rant, I told her, “I’m sorry my husband is a Marine and makes very little money. I’m sorry that he goes to work each day for your safety. I’m sorry you are being selfish about your needs and not thinking of others.” There was silence on the other line. Needless to say the conversation didn’t end well and my respect for her flushed right down the toilet.

When I hear people, those who are not military, assume that everyone in the military (dependents or active duty) have it made, all I want to do is slap them upside the head and open their eyes to the reality of the military life. My husband once told me, “I didn’t join the Marine Corps for the money. I joined to be somebody. Heck! If I was in it for the money, then I definitely would not be in the military.”

We all know that the Marines, soldiers, sailors, airmen, etc. don’t make much money. They make enough. They have the added extras like housing and health insurance, because, lets face it, if you are defending a nation the least they can provided are those “luxuries”.

I am honored by what my husband does each day. There are not that many people in their twenties who know what they want in life. Heck! When I graduated college I still didn’t know what I wanted to be when “I grew-up”, but people like my husband do.

So why do people who are not in the military and hear about military’s “luxuries” get all worked up about them? I am not saying that everyone who is not in the military is like this, but why are some like this? Why are there are always people wanting things without consideration for the person next to them?

 

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  1. Mandy Baker says:

    Amen!

  2. <APPLAUSE!>

  3. Shanna Miller says:

    If she wants "free" healthcare than she (or her spouse) should join the military. It's not like just handed out to anyone who wants it!

  4. Amber Vue says:

    I think the perspective is off on both ends. Your husband pays for the healthcare and any other benefits received. Which is why there is so little leftover. It's not luck or a luxury. Everyone pays in some way or another. If your "friend" was informed or even opportunistic enough she too would be "lucky" enough to pay for her own "luxuries" like healthcare, housing, etc. Haha!

  5. Nancy Merkle says:

    Some people are like this because they have heard stories from Great-grandpa about how the military pays for EVERYTHING. As an AGR spouse, I have run into this a lot. I have spent a lot of time explaining to civilians that: No the Army doesn't BUY me a house and when we move, the Army doesn't pay it off for us. The housing allowance that was part of hubby's pay never covered all our rent and utilities. They think that we get groceries–for FREE! They don't understand that even at the commissary we may get a little discount, but we PAY for our own food. Hubby gets a small food allowance, families don't. They think that the Army pays for all of us to go to college. They think that our clothes are FREE. They don't understand that we can't just go to any doctor we want to for FREE. They don't understand why we "let" our soldiers go TDY or on deployments–I had one say she would just refuse to let her hubby go. So many misconceptions about military life abound in the civilian world.

  6. None of the supposed "luxuries" are free. .. look.at your LES. .. they take housing cost ..in some.places govt housing /quarters even pay utilities. . Tricare is deducted as well. There is nothing "Free" or luxury about it.. we all pay great prices when we live the military life.

  7. Even on Base we paid for things. the ONLY place for food was the Mess Hall. if we wanted something different we PAID for it. I you lived off base, you only got some money for rent not all of it. Military personal pay for more than Civillians think.

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