My husband and I have been together for over seven years and married for five. Every year with him is an awesome year, he is my best friend after all, but I have got to tell you, anniversary number five was the best.
Let me explain…
My husband has been in the Army for as long as we have been married, and before that he was in ROTC, so I knew what I was getting into when he slipped that ring on my finger. I knew he would be missing anniversaries, holidays, really any special date, and that was fine with me. I was never a “date” person. We could celebrate any day! But goodness, it was tiring not having a real anniversary with him.
Anniversary #1: We were in Georgia while he finished his Infantry officer training. On the morning of our anniversary, bright and early at 4 a.m., I dropped him off for ten days out in the field. We had celebrated the night before with a dinner out, but he was going to miss the actual day.
Anniversary #2: He was technically home and we technically had a night out, but it felt off. Why? We had family in town because he was deploying in a few short weeks. So while we did have time together, it felt awkward because it wasn’t necessarily time alone. You know what I mean? Until recently, though, this anniversary was tops.
Anniversary #3: My husband was deployed still, winding down his tour in Iraq. He came home just over two weeks later and we had a celebratory “Welcome back home and anniversary” dinner.
Anniversary #4: This was supposed to be the one, he wasn’t going to be deployed, but no, the Army showed up again! During this anniversary he was wrapping up three weeks of training where I hadn’t even spoken to him once. This was the year I didn’t even get a phone call saying Happy Anniversary, and instead I ate some Popeye’s with my six-month-old daughter. Yay.
Anniversary #5: This one was different, this was really the one. The morning of, we had a yard sale with some friends and made plenty of money for our date. After nap time, we shipped our toddler off to some close friends, and booked it into town. First up, a movie, something we don’t get to indulge in very often. We even bought a soda to share! After an awesome movie, we headed out to an early dinner at a Thai restaurant down the street. Thanks to our hard earned cash, we even got to buy drinks, an appetizer and a dessert (we’re on a budget, if you can’t tell). The food was divine and the company was even better. We got home by bedtime and enjoyed the rest of our evening in peace.
An anniversary is an anniversary, a date is a date, and when he can’t be there we make due without a fuss. I have got to tell you, though, it is just wonderful when we can celebrate our day on the actual day, together.