Sometimes getting through the darkness means being willing to find the sun.
“Be still, sad heart, and cease repining; Behind the clouds is the sun still shining; Thy fate is the common fate of all, into each life some rain must fall, some days must be dark and dreary.” This is the writing of the late Henry Wadsworth Longfellow, taken from his poem “The Rainy Day.” Any military spouse knows that deployments are plagued with dark and dreary days. We try our best to keep our heads up and stay strong during our husbands’ absences, but nevertheless there are times when our willpower goes out the window and we find ourselves sinking into the mud, our hearts clouded over. Our spirits become broken with the burden of responsibility and the angst of loneliness.
Sometimes, amidst the overwhelming emotions, we forget that the sun still shines. Above the clouds and behind the rain remains the light that leads us forward. The shimmering rays spread across the sky with the promise of a new day, one more day closer to the end. Though we may not be able to see it with our eyes, we have the choice to find it with our hearts. We have the option of turning our despair into an opportunity by allowing ourselves to quiet our minds and strengthen our souls.
Without rainy, dreary days, the sun-filled days are not as uplifting. Likewise, without some pain and sadness, the heart does not discover those things which truly make it happy. It is during the sad times when we have the greatest chance to grow and discover what leads us to contentment. I think this is what Henry Wadsworth Longfellow meant when he wrote, “Into each life some rain must fall, some days must be dark and dreary.”
If we are willing to believe something we cannot see, we can push through the obstacles and focus on the glory of what remains. The clouds and rain are fleeting, but the sun is everlasting. Deployments are fleeting, but the strength and persistence and love which grows inside the heart of a spouse is everlasting.
Lisa White is a Marine wife and mother of two. She has been through three deployments and four moves in her eight years as a military wife. She has a Master’s degree in Health Education, but has spent the past five years being a stay-home mom and learning about life through deployments and motherhood. She has a passion for writing and uses it as a way to share her experiences with other military wives in her blog, A Chance to Bloom. Her goal is to provide inspiration and encouragement for making the most of military life.