Trust is a key component in any relationship. It is also one of the things people struggle with the most. It is hard to totally and completely trust that someone is not going to hurt you. By the time we fall in love and get married, most of us have been hurt and have had our trust broken at some point. This can make trusting your spouse even more difficult. But, reality is, no matter how hard it can be, trust is imperative to making any relationship last. This is no more evident than in a marriage, especially a military marriage.
As military spouses trust becomes even more important. Our significant others can be gone for weeks, months, even years at a time. Any relationship that lacks trust will have a hard time surviving. But, one with that much separation would be near impossible.
The big question is, “How?” Well, honestly, there is no big secret. There is no mystery to be solved. Trust is choice! You have to choose to trust your spouse. You have to choose to put the past behind you and believe that your spouse loves you enough to not hurt you.
It can be scary, especially in a lifestyle that has such a high divorce rate. You have to believe that your marriage is different. You have to believe that yours’ is a marriage that can and will withstand the trials and hardships of military life. And you have to trust that your spouse feels the same way. Trust is a choice! No one can make that decision for. You have to decide that your marriage is worth chancing heartache and…choose trust!
Now, I’m not an expert. I have no qualifications to give marriage advice. What I do have is a nearly ten year marriage, a marriage that has been a military marriage from the beginning, that I can honestly say is stronger now than it was at the beginning. There are many reasons for this. But, I can tell you that a big part of it is that we both chose to trust!