A large part of our lives is ending. We are closing the doors completely on that day we said goodbye to each other and entering a new and exciting part of our lives. I can clearly recall the day that my husband’s orders for a 12 month deployment landed in my mailbox. I was still in shock from the overall news but this made it real, there was no way out of this and it was happening. Who would have known that the horrid news of deployment was what would change my life for the best?
At this time in my life I had plenty to keep me busy – a two year old, full time job and my home. So why did I feel the need to add something else onto my plate? My husband and I discussed going back to school for a few years and now that he was deploying he wanted me to pursue this goal. Besides having something to keep my mind off the deployment, he wanted me to have security in case he did not return. This tore me apart inside just thinking about it, but I knew it was the right time to do it. And I wanted to do it for him, for the sacrifice he was making for his country and family, I swore that I would not look back and get my degree.
With the help of financial aid and a great military discount, I enrolled in classes to obtain my Bachelor’s degree in Business Administration and started classes in July of 2008. I was stressed about the upcoming deployment in September as well as other household duties that taking on a full time college course really put me over the edge. Luckily, my husband was there and with his support and encouragement, I got down to business.
Being in college and speaking to other military spouses about why I decided to go to school has always kept that deployment alive for me. I am not sure why but it has always been a reminder of the person I was and how much more resilient I became after. I guess I have that deployment to thank. It wasn’t easy I won’t lie but one thing I can say is that all the hard work I put into my degree these past three years has made me dedicated in not only my school work but as a wife, mother and business owner. It has completed changed me for the better and as I look ahead I can see bigger and better things yet to come.
As graduation approaches this Friday, I see the open door at the end of the hall that I look forward in finally closing. The memories of that deployment slowly fade away and new memories are approaching for me and my family. I am not saying farewell to deployment completely, we are still a military family and face that possibility each day – I am just looking at deployment in the face and saying “BRING IT ON”! 🙂
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