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Still Learning

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“Mom, I just got a claims statement from TriCare… I don’t understand it.”

“What don’t you understand?”

“What is a deductible?”

As my husband and I approach our one year anniversary, I have been reflecting on how being newlyweds, has been quite an adventure. Learning those little life lessons turn into common practice, and our mistakes along the way make for a bit of comedic relief in the stressful lifestyle we tend to lead. With the added pressures of adapting to a life I am not accustomed to – amongst an abundance of words, phrases and acronyms I don’t understand – it doesn’t help make the transition of common growth into adulthood any easier. Once I have familiarized myself with the ways of which one lives a military lifestyle, I still need to learn those small lessons in life everyone experiences as they enter the “real world”.

Little occurrences like putting together a lunch for my husband – cramming oodles of noodles into a container full of sauce until it overflows; creating a mess – prove to be lessons. Or learning that it is illegal to drive without proof of insurance in your car turns into a lesson that you sort of wish you would have learned before making a trip across the country.

As a little girl, I always believed that once you get married you become a mature adult. And technically, yes I am an adult. However, no matter how old I am or what kind of degree I received from a University, I still have a lot of learning to do. And even though I am a year into my marriage, I still may not be that mature adult I thought I would be. I was reminded of this the other day when I received a claims statement from TriCare telling me what I owed recently on a medical bill. For someone who has never seen a claims statement before, it might as well been a sheet of paper a 5-year-old just scribbled all over. I immediately called my mother, like I always do when I am confused or need guidance. And with a sigh of disbelief that her own daughter had no knowledge on the matter, she instructed me to call TriCare and ask them to explain. Ten minutes into one of the most embarrassing phone calls I have ever made, a claims associate from TriCare began to explain what a deductible was. His puzzled tone of voice reassured me that this was in fact something I should have learned already. I realized that even though I may be married, I still have a lot of learning to do to become a mature adult.

I look forward to discovering and learning these life lessons while on this amazing journey with my husband. And of course laughing about it along the way.

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3 thoughts on “Still Learning”

  1. i know exactly what letter you are talking about and did the same thing, freaked out. i also did, like you, call TriCare and had them dummy-fy it for me. I was embarrassed, but at least I learned something new.

    This is what I say to myself all the time: :The only way you learn is if you ask,”

  2. I was fortunate to agree to the Army AFTB (Army Family Team Building) classes when I was first married. WOW, that made SO much of a difference. It is Military 101 for acronymns, benefits, unit & FRG structure and all sorts of helpful info. I highly recommend it for EVERY spouse. Find a friend & go, or go and make a friend there. Matter of fact, I am going to go again next year in Alaska, since the first time I took the class was in 1999 in Korea.

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