Accepting & Understanding
Being that I was a Marine brat growing up
and
lived the military lifestyle of
moving around all the time
having to say goodbye to old friends
and
trying to make new ones every time we moved
and
watching my mother be a single married SAHM to 4 kids
and
having my father gone
for
days
weeks
months
and
a year at at time
was something that I just
understood
and
accepted
growing up.
It was all I knew of my life.
I was born into this lifestyle
and
I never knew any different
and
I had nothing else to base it off of.
Now that I am a Marine wife
I am living the same life as I did as a kid
but
now I’m barring all the responsibilities
that my mother once did.
I understand
and
fully accept this lifestyle that I am living as an adult.
I chose to marry my Marine.
In doing so
I accepted the lifestyle that I knew growing up.
I may not like that I have to play
mother
and
father
the majority of the year
or
having to run the household full time all by myself
or
having to deal with a flat tire
and
trying to figure out how I’m going to get it fixed
while toting around 4 kids
who are all having meltdowns at the same time
when it’s dinner time.
But I still accept it
and
I understand
that my husband has no control over the fact
that when he is on USA soil
that he might not always make it home for dinner
or
be able to tuck the kids into bed at night
or
he might fall asleep laying beside me in bed
while I am mid-sentence telling him about my day.
I don’t hold those things against my husband
I simply embrace him when he is home
and
make the best of the time we have together.
I feel that if you accept being a military spouse
and
all that it entails
{because lefts face it…it is a very hard job at times}
the less strain it may put on your marriage.
You have to understand that your job being a military wife
is to fully support your husband
and
his job
whatever that may be.
Accepting this
will make your time together better spent.
No matter what branch of service your husband is in
or
his rank
he still has certain
responsibilities
obligations
and
committment
that he has to fulfill.
Supporting that will ease the
pressures
and
demands
of his job.
Remember that he doesn’t like being away from you
just as much as you don’t like that he is always gone.
You have to be team players supporting one another.
Make sure your communication is open
with one another
and
when you are upset about something to do with his job
that he has no control over
you can express your hurt to him
but
don’t hold that against him.
Chances are he is feeling just as much hurt as you are.
The more you resist the military
{and all the heartache it throws at you from time to time}
the more
strain
and
stress
your putting on yourself
and
your husband.
Just give into it
and
learn to accept it
because in the end
the military owns your husband.
When he signed up to serve his country
he also signed up for a whole lot of B.S to go along with it.
The moral of this story is
to fully support your husband
and
learn to accept the lifestyle
you are living in the branch of service you are in.
And be proud of
yourself
and
your husband
because not everyone can do your jobs.
I love this. Spot on, honest, and 100% accurate. Sing it, sista’! : )
LOVELY post, friend.
So true, and a great reminder! Beautifully put!