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Accepting & Understanding

 

Being that I was a Marine brat growing up

and

lived the military lifestyle of

moving around all the time

having to say goodbye to old friends

and

trying to make new ones every time we moved

and

watching my mother be a single married SAHM to 4 kids

and

having my father gone

for

days

weeks

months

and

a year at at time

was something that I just

understood

and

accepted

growing up.

It was all I knew of my life.

I was born into this lifestyle

and

I never knew any different

and

I had nothing else to base it off of.

Now that I am a Marine wife

I am living the same life as I did as a kid

but

now I’m barring all the responsibilities

that my mother once did.

I understand

and

fully accept this lifestyle that I am living as an adult.

I chose to marry my Marine.

In doing so

I accepted the lifestyle that I knew growing up.

I may not like that I have to play

mother

and

father

the majority of the year

or

having to run the household full time all by myself

or

having to deal with a flat tire

and

trying to figure out how I’m going to get it fixed

while toting around 4 kids

who are all having meltdowns at the same time

when it’s dinner time.

But I still accept it

and

I understand

that my husband has no control over the fact

that when he is on USA soil

that he might not always make it home for dinner

or

be able to tuck the kids into bed at night

or

he might fall asleep laying beside me in bed

while I am mid-sentence telling him about my day.

I don’t hold those things against my husband

I simply embrace him when he is home

and

make the best of the time we have together.

I feel that if you accept being a military spouse

and

all that it entails

{because lefts face it…it is a very hard job at times}

the less strain it may put on your marriage.

You have to understand that your job being a military wife

is to fully support your husband

and

his job

whatever that may be.

Accepting this

will make your time together better spent.

No matter what branch of service your husband is in

or

his rank

he still has certain

responsibilities

obligations

and

committment

that he has to fulfill.

Supporting that will ease the

pressures

and

demands

of his job.

Remember that he doesn’t like being away from you

just as much as you don’t like that he is always gone.

You have to be team players supporting one another.

Make sure your communication is open

with one another

and

when you are upset about something to do with his job

that he has no control over

you can express your hurt to him

but

don’t hold that against him.

Chances are he is feeling just as much hurt as you are.

The more you resist the military

{and all the heartache it throws at you from time to time}

the more

strain

and

stress

your putting on yourself

and

your husband.

Just give into it

and

learn to accept it

because in the end

the military owns your husband.

When he signed up to serve his country

he also signed up for a whole lot of B.S to go along with it.

The moral of this story is

to fully support your husband

and

learn to accept the lifestyle

you are living in the branch of service you are in.

And be proud of

yourself

and

your husband

because not everyone can do your jobs.

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